EtiquetteFlowersFuneral PlanningFuneralsGuide to Sending Sympathy Flowers

June 17, 2019Obitia

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Flowers are a beautiful way of expressing condolences after the loss of a loved one, when words are hard to find.

Naturally, any funeral flower arrangements that you send after a loss will be a much-welcomed and appreciated gesture, but there are a few things to keep in mind to make sure they are appropriate for the occasion.

There are different types of arrangements that you may not be familiar with as well as funeral flower etiquette that you may not be aware of if you haven’t been to a funeral or haven’t planned a funeral before. We hope the following information is helpful.


Difference Between Sympathy Flowers and Funeral Flowers

Sympathy flowers are meant for someone who has suffered a loss and is generally a smaller arrangement that will serve as a centerpiece or be placed in vases in the family’s home. Sympathy flowers should be addressed to and delivered to the family home, office, etc., of the person who is grieving.

Funeral flowers are meant to be a tribute to the deceased and will serve as decoration at the funeral service, memorial or graveside. They are usually larger arrangements and more elegant as they serve a formal purpose. If you are sending these, in most cases, they should be delivered directly to the funeral home.


Tips & Etiquette

Not all funeral flowers must be white flowers, instead, try sending something that you now would have been appreciated by the deceased or their friends and family.

Consider sending flowers to the home of those grieving after all the services have ended to let them know you are still thinking of them. This small gesture will be highly appreciated by those still mourning.

Depending on the recipient, they may enjoy a funeral plant or gift basket more than flowers, it is always important to remember that you should send what you think the recipient would enjoy most during this difficult time.

Flowers that adorn the casket is a tradition typically reserved for the closest family members. We recommend that you inquire with the family before ordering a gift of flowers for the casket.

If the family asks for a charitable contribution “in lieu of flowers…”, we recommend making the donation first. It is acceptable to then also send flowers to the service if you would like.

For multiple-day services, send flowers that will be designed in a container with water to keep them fresher, longer.


Popular Flowers and their Symbolism

White Lilies – Innocence of the soul of the departed

Gladioli – Sincerity

Peace Lily – Peace and purity

White carnations – Pure love and innocence

Pink carnations – Remembrance

Chrysanthemums – Loyalty and devoted love

White roses – Reverence, innocence, and youthfulness

Crimson roses – Grief and sorrow

Yellow roses – Friendship

Pink or White Orchids – Eternal love. Set as potted plants.


Where to Buy Sympathy Flowers

Obitia works with Florist One to deliver flowers from a local florist across the United States to the location of your choosing.  Same-day delivery is available for any order that is placed before 1:00 PM in the recipient’s time zone. Florist One has been delivering funeral flower arrangements across the United States and Canada since 1999. After 20 years, their customers have trusted them with over 1 million flower orders. While they can access over 15,000 local florists, they focus on choosing the best local florists to deliver flowers. Their florists don’t pay fees to be part of their network. This means they are free to choose the best florists based solely on their quality of work and their track record.

You can also order flowers through Amazon Prime along with viewing several options below from florists that work through the Amazon website.




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